Friday, 30 December 2022

What We Had

what we had was little, 
but it counted for something, 
and that was all that mattered 
to souls indebted to world's 
insatiable ingratitude 

what we had was indefinable 
yet we loved it that way, 
for to find meaning to something 
leads down a convoluted path 
of unwanted discoveries 

what we had wasn't much 
but we were accustomed just 
getting by, 
oblivious to the world's ever inviting 
smile of greed 
and its charms would beguile us 
and suddenly, we weren't enough for 
each other 

It Is Finished

The beginning of a roller-coaster, 

the ride through seemingly never-ending vistas 

sometimes an occasional fear would creep in 

and doubts emerge slowly but fizzle out 

as we got accustomed to the cheap thrills, 

which conquered the doubts 

dismissing them as irrational 

and so we went on drinking, making merry, 

and one day, we gasp with horror 

It is finished!

 

Monday, 12 December 2022

A Festival of Fools

 I am more than convinced, 

in all its grandness, 

that earth is one giant stomping ground, 

is a festival of fools 

 

so much do not make sense, 

like how we are consumed by greed, 

so much that humans are the only animals 

that pay to live on earth 

 

religion has the grandest ideas 

on morality, 

yet so many are evil - even the staunchest 

believers 

Humans are no better than animals 

except humans can rationalize their evil 

Saturday, 10 December 2022

The Tale of Chipcho

He is, by virtue, a man whose 

well of excuses never runs dry. 

Given an opportunity, or not, 

he can always rely on a robust cache

excuses. 

He can get away some of the times, 

especially when he is not accountable to himself

He is too lenient with himself - Charles Chipcho 

because Chipcho does what Chipcho wants  

some things may mean the whole world 

for a second, then it doesn't 

everything lasts as long as he does not

find an excuse

or have an iota of care 

 


Wednesday, 7 December 2022

No Poem Makes Sense

At the touch of something divine, 

A mere moment assumes new significance, 

Yet, basking in the glorious world, words, 

Words diminish the new meaning, perchance, 

ashamed of their own nudity


A poet's words are often a vain attempt, 

To fit an entire world in verse, 

For to freeze time requires more than rhyme 

To paint a moment requires more than canvas 

In each poem are just jumbled words 

 

No perfect poem ever makes sense 

If it does, then it isn't a poem 

No one is obliged to understand a poem 

Many were composed by poets high on drugs 

And the rest battling internal demons 


Saturday, 3 December 2022

A Life of Too Many Maybes

maybe we dream too much,

maybe we are searching 

an inexistent higher purpose, 

maybe we are insignificant 

yet we pretend to be 


maybe we needlessly struggle 

against a force too powerful, 

that will eventually crush us 

and condemn us to oblivion 

 

maybe we should just rest easy, 

be a little kind and gentle to ourselves, 

maybe we should just to revel 

in life's little simplicities 

laugh at our own follies a little more   


maybe we do not know 

that which we think we know 

maybe we are puppets 

who dance to master's lullaby


Thursday, 1 December 2022

December Blues

 a slow stroll down dry January 

a tinge of regret masks merry 

of the year past, and a deserved toast, 

to dreams yet to come


a peculiar walk down dry January 

an infinite number of day, all blurry 

all queuing to be counted derelict  

In one cold December morning 


It's been tough, nothing much 

despite deep and honest intentions 

amounted from strenuous efforts 

But, hey, isn't it December? 


That's enough a reason to make merry 

And reward oneself, once more 

for three hundred and sixty five days 

of bliss-filled, or lack thereof, existence

Friday, 25 November 2022

One Midnight

One midnight, 

you will be home, 

but feel stranded in a distant island, 

and the songs you loved play in the background, 

sounding more like dirges than 

songs you can dance to.

Sombre 

something grates your heart, 

you try so much not to think at all 

DON'T THINK! DON'T THINK!

Your brain doesn't obey the command, 

It says that these are affairs of the heart 

And it must be involved - it is the self-appointed judge, jury, witness, 

and the advocate

The brain commands you to picture 

the love of your life 

in someone else arms 

And you do - who are you to disobey a wise man? 

The clock past midnight 

and the dirges play on ... and on

Wednesday, 23 November 2022

Wakeful Moments

 Every wakeful moment 

The wise spend it planning, learning or earning, 

Losers spend it winnowing their airy dreams, 

Wallowing in their misery, 

And swallowing their future

You Are Alright, Always

 And when you sit to ponder, 

In the middle of a cold and lonely night, 

What will tomorrow bring, you wonder 

Be still, you are alight, always 


Some of the times life seems like a walk, 

In a forest full of hungry wild animals, 

Be still, you make them up in your silent talk 

You are alright, always

 

You are always alright, 

There are no nights any darker 

You are only scared of your light, 

Be still, you are alright, always. 

 

You do not need dope to cope 

Time is never in haste, 

You could wallow in misery or chose hope 

Because, in the end, you will always be right 

 



Saturday, 12 November 2022

The Country Boy

the blank pages dares me, 

taunts me, mocks me to fill it, 

I can't think of anything, 

I can't arrange the idea inside 

my head, 

into something coherent, 

something that would communicate the theme 

"Look here's today's poem"

In the background, a soulful Vince Gill

song "Go Rest High on That Mountain" 

It's kind of nostalgic, 

brings forth a memory I haven't live through yet 

and I realise I won't ever live such a moment

I have no desire

Deep inside I am country boy 

not so well-versed with so many things 

Well, and this is today's poem 

for me and that one reader who shows up 

on this page 

I wish you weren't anonymous, 

my one loyal reader

Friday, 11 November 2022

The Bicycle

As a kid, I thought riding a bicycle 

was an inborn skill, 

I'd watch others graceful hop on the 

two wheeler and pedal to their destinies 

I might have asked myself, 

"What's too difficult about it?" 

 

Then I learned the hard way 

My first contact with a bicycle earned 

me a scar 

I tried to apply what I had seen masters do, 

And to my dismay, I realised there's more to 

a bicycle than simply hopping on it and pedaling away 

There'd be a thousand failed attempts, 

a thousand falls, and a few scars 

Before I could earn the right 

to gracefully hop on it and ride away 

Wednesday, 9 November 2022

The Stars

 the stars bury their faces in shame

when the catch a glimpse of your gleaming face, 

the sun retreats behind the clouds, 

sometimes it flees to another world, 

when you smile. 

every time you step into the room, 

I feel like I have the universe in my palms, 

I am yet to understand what you gave me 

Friday, 4 November 2022

Ephemeral Moments

 it always begins with a sip 

- or a gulp - whichever will coax 

demons out of the tombs, 

sooner, ephemeral bliss takes over, 

sooner, the raging storms make a hasty retreat, 

to wait for their moment 


sooner, the heights become hazy, 

and tranquility - a sinister form of tranquility 

weans a soul of all its worries, all its burdens, 

and owns them 

in an ephemeral bliss 

the future blends with nothingness

Thursday, 3 November 2022

Bus To Bedlam

Charles Chipcho caught the bus to bedlam, 

He did not think even for single minute, 

If he'd ever make it back, 

And, because he had a two-way ticket, 

He relaxed and made merry 

with all the merry-makers of bedlam.

Wednesday, 2 November 2022

Let Not Your Memory Be Too Short

on the day you remember people 

who did you a whole world of good, 

let not your memory be too short

because those people did not do it because you deserved it

they did it out of the goodness of their hearts


Let not your memory be too short 

You can move mountains 

for people who wouldn't move a molehill 

Remember that they do not owe you reciprocity

Do it out of the goodness of your heart 

 

 

Wednesday, 26 October 2022

Unavoidable

 for long, you were disciplined, 

you did not indulge in any pleasure, 

it felt good to finally tame your demons, 

for the first time, you felt untouchable, 

the only opinion that mattered was yours, 

but, because God has a sense of humor, 

you were struck, at lightning speed, 

by something unavoidable. 

And, after all the sacrifice, 

you are back to where you began.

Tuesday, 25 October 2022

The Jailbird

I know, without a doubt, 

Of a prisoner inside of me, 

I am a jailbird, 

Twenty-five to life 

No possibility of parole, 

I still maintain my innocence - it wasn't me 

All I ever did was not consenting to be born

Rolling Back Time

looking back, 

it is amazing how I thought

of the vast opportunities that lay before my eyes, 

I stood atop a mountain and gazed down 

at the beautiful and rolling fields, 

all for me to conquer 

but then life happens, 

I realised that it is unfair

and I never accepted it,

I haven't still. 

Monday, 24 October 2022

The Gloom

often, when there seems to be no way, 

and as sure as the sun will go down, 

a silent prayer, 'please let it be today' 

but there it remains - the same old frown 


the stomach grumbles with discontent

there hasn't been much to munch, 

each passing hour increases resent 

of the discarded food and free lunch 

 

there is nothing to enjoy - not a movie, 

not that favourite song, not nothing, 

the pangs increase, gravel would taste like gravy 

at least it would be better than nothing 


and then, stuck in a web of gloom

nothing ever comes to your mind 

everything seemed crammed a tiny room

you search, but there is nothing to find

 


Saturday, 1 October 2022

The Drifting Laughter

the more your laughter drifts further, 

the more this life becomes a puzzle, 

and in the bustling bubble of happy people, 

the more I am struck by the significance of 

of both your absence and presence



Monday, 26 September 2022

Songs Inside Us

in spaces that the world chokes with its 

bubble, hustle, and needless cheer, 

in the crowds that passes us by, 

in the crowds that make the world vast

desolate, 

in the darkest hours that the sun 

is never willing to be a conspirator, 

we ride the rhythms of our favourite songs

because, in the end, music is all we got

buried deep, 

buried in untouchable place, 

buried in places where no amount of pain can 

reach, 

buried in sacred places inside us.

The Songs That Belong To Us

there are songs that we tend to personalize

as if the artistes sung them just for us, 

they are some sort of cherished possessions, 

and when the come through the speakers, 

they awaken a memory, 

that ferries us to a distant island, 

we rise, we soar, we glide 

through the rhythm, 

and when we get to the island, 

we sit back and soak in the memory, 

right there, at that moment of impeccable solitude, 

nothing matters - not money, not riches 

just the pure bliss of knowing that no one else 

will ever know the purity of a simple song.

Tuesday, 13 September 2022

Don't Matter

We stood by the precarious edge of adulthood, 

Stole a glance at its ever inviting abyss, 

We counted days, months, years at that day, 

The day we would take a plunge into 

the ever secretive world - the world 

barricaded by adults

Numb

 don't you wish, on some occasions, 

that you would numb to all the voices

that silently scream in your head?


don't you wish you would numb 

the hopelessness that often grip you

on occasions you need extra strength?

 

don't you wish you would numb 

the overwhelming guilt 

that trips you when you make that step, 

the most important step?

 

don't you wish you could numb 

the paralysing fears and worries 

that exist in your head?

 

the chariots that you would ride, 

only need one word: numb

being numb to all the insignificant things 

that bog you down. 



Regrets

 regrets

grate the dreamless nights, 

the cool breeze turn into a 

spellbinding tornado, 

of a thousand 'should-have-dones'

millions should-have-nots, should-have-beens 

should-have-knowns, 

and when the tornado eases, 

you are just an empty shell, 

seeking solace among mortals

puzzled that they are still alive, 

almost against their will.


Tuesday, 30 August 2022

Small Wins

Small wins, 

as inconsequential as they seem, 

feels like fuel to an empty car, 

a few drops will get the car a few inches ahead 

and a few inches closer to the destination

celebrate them 

 

Monday, 29 August 2022

The Dreamer

 in the dark crevices of his mind

lies grandiose dreams, 

dreams as big as the universe

dreams as vast as space

as lays awake, the dreamer in him 

convulses with delight 

at the mere thought of glittering success

that would drive many mad with envy 

the dreams are like opium to him

he seeks them everyday, 

yet does very little to bring them to fruition 

 

Sunday, 21 August 2022

Tommorow

there are days we never long for 

days that remind us of our existence

when all we want is forget how to breathe

but how do you even do that?

breathing, barring medical conditions, 

comes naturally to us 

call it default setting

except because tomorrow is another day 

that reminds us of failures both by 

commission and omission,

the wrongs things we did and the rights things we 

did not do 

of the wrong people we loved,

and the right people we neglected,

of the dreams yearn to live 

and the reality we are in 

as we breathe, we are constantly reminded that life 

does not make too much sense,

and we don't either 

Transcendence

Sometimes what goes on in our minds makes the world seem like a convoluted maze, dark and filled with eerie sounds. It should be better, we think. It should be, except it isn't. Because life never follows a script. We do create scripts right inside our heads, consciously or subconsciously. And when it does not go to plan, the world turns dark soon after sunrise. And we long for ephemeral things that will transcend our deep-seated worries. We binge watch movies, binge eat, and for some, binge on alcohol. 

It could be better. But its so much worse than we envisioned. Yet somehow, it seems the situation is out of control. It seems that our guardian angels have taken a nap, or threw in the towel concerning our cherished dreams. We  want to blame someone for the decisions we made. The truth is that it is far much easier to blame someone or anything to make the sorry situation seem a little better. We are us. Things like this should not be happening to us. But the reality is that it is happening. And it seems that it is out of control. 


Give Me Bread

give me a loaf of bread 

before I drop dead 

so that you can come 

and bestow upon my soul virtues I never had 


say you truly love me 

before we become 'used to be'

and you turn into a philosopher 

waxing cliches 

like you don't know what you have till its gone 


life is a lot like a novel 

lots of plots twists before the shovel 

lots of characters, aiding or derailing the script 

and sometimes the confusion between the real and ideal 

makes life unbearable  


you fall into hard times 

that make you long for those nursery rhymes 

because the meaning of adulthood gets lost

and you wonder why you were 

so much in a hurry to grow up 


they say life is unfair 

because it is supposed to be 

they say diamonds take a beating 

to become the 'it' thing

but you are no diamond and hard is not your portion 



Sunday, 19 June 2022

How Do You Begin Again

 I still miss her, in some kind strange way, 

I know we still had so many to say, 

We promised each other so many 

Whatever flowed out of her mouth was honey 


How do you begin again 

When it is just too much pain 

The one you ever truly loved

when you loved in a way you could never have explained? 


I still miss her, a funny feeling now 

And I ask myself, eerily, how? 

What happened? What did not?

In my stomach settles a strange knot.

 

It is strange when you believe you were never meant to part 

There is always that guilty feeling you never played your part 

On some cold nights, you pause all your thoughts and ask why 

And the ever elusive answer leaves you with a weird sigh 

Saturday, 18 June 2022

The Man From The Lowlands

 He came from the ranks of men, 

who gradually gravitated towards oblivion

by sheer and willful ignorance. 

He suffers frequent bouts of self-loathe 

on moments he swore he wouldn't ever reach. 

It is the umpteenth time to swear, 

yet on his low moments, 

he will be moved by how much he is doing 

embrace the noose that took his grandfather away 

On the outside he seems like a made-up guy 

But broken into smithereens on the inside 

How he wishes that things were different 

If only he did things differently. 

Monday, 6 June 2022

Rat Race

 If they ever tell you that you will
get to a point, in a sinister manner
a point where your name will be
permanently struck of the register
of those seeking redemption,
yield to temptation. Believe them. 

For heaven's sake, what would
a man actively seeking his destruction,
hope for?
There are only so many things to be grateful
for, yet focus on the same things
that have born nothing but angst,
self-loathe,
self-hate
and when nothing seems to work,
the very man stares at his own bleak existence
the existence that he made
and wishes there was a hand that hoist him
of the hole
that has become a rat race. 

If there ever tell you
that you may amount to nothing
believe them.
In you, they are battling their own existential
struggles
and your failure might make them feel better about
their sorry existence

Saturday, 28 May 2022

Silence

 Silence. 

Sometimes you crave it, sometimes you don't 

Sometimes its liberating, sometimes it imprisons 

Silence. 

A lover's nightmare, 

A jilted love's bliss. 


Silence. 

Sometimes it gives hope, 

Sometimes it strangles it, 

You oscillate between hope 

and despair 


Silence is not a dream 

Silence does not obey laws of the stream

It lives on its own terms 

Yet treats and harms

Tuesday, 24 May 2022

Dancing To A Song of Fools

 tell me any one tale 

full woes quite avoidable 

like Chipchos and his friends...

the have danced around fire 

plenty of times, 

each time getting burns to 

what medical doctors call degrees 

Chipchos seems to decreed to die young

broke and miserable 

for each time he gets burned, 

he goes back again 

because he likes to dance around fire, 

he says anything you love doing is 

worth overdoing, 

his lifelong mantra is that moderation is for cowards 

Wednesday, 27 April 2022

Truth In The Rain

We stood in unbearable rain 

In the pursuit of truth, 

It did not seem so vain 

As contacting god from telephone booth 


Not knowing drove us insane 

We had an inkling, a slight hint 

a candle on the window vane 

i flicker in the night, a glint 

 

It might not have been 

Truth is, truth hurts 

In the end we may never win 

Either way, we may be broken into parts 

Wednesday, 9 March 2022

Barbarians in White

It began with a whiff from a distant land, 

A vast ocean lay between, 

And to conquer it a fool's errand, 

It did not deter them explorers, 

The braved the oceans with nothing as 

much as a compass, 

And they came to a brave new world, 

and discovered people who did not look like, 

their unassuming ways dismissed as primitive 

And they killed thousands, 

They occupied lands never theirs - they did not even 

want to share - the darn ungrateful sojourners

And then came a new language, 

A new religion, 

And concepts such as democracy introduced 

to a people did not need it, 

And they called those who wanted their land back barbarians 

The white barbarians stayed and made foreign lands their homes 

And the repercussions are still felt today, Centuries after

Monday, 28 February 2022

The Old Man's Talk

 The old man spoke slowly, 

and deliberately, 

a penetrating gazed fixed one me, 

He said "you are not depressed, 

it is a white man's word, 

an excuse of sorts, 

to create psychiatrists, and counsellors

perhaps sell drugs for Big Pharma

You are sad that you are meeting that objective, 

You are not depressed, 

You are just broke

and with a huge void of discontent inside you

you wish you could be somewhere else, 

living another life."  


you've watched too much TV, 

you've consciously let yourself to your ruin, 

you've realized your ruins 

and it is unsightly - you want a quick fix, 

a lottery - 

young man, you do not need a lottery, 

even if you get one, it won't rescue you"


Saturday, 5 February 2022

Of Heaven and Earthly Bills

Once heaven looked like a good destination, 

one that you would only see when you permanently 

close your eyes, 

and a heap of soil stacked over you - of course if you are 

lucky

We believed, because we needed to believe in something, 

We needed to believe something that assures as a shred of immortality 

Who wouldn't to live forever? 

 

On Sundays, when going to church was part of the school routine 

Just like eating, we trooped to church and sung 

Our little hearts incredibly joyous 

For it was the only time you would be singled out for a beating,

at least no then, 

 Heaven was within our grasp 


Years later, we realize that no one tells you 

that you have to pay bills as you wait to go to heaven, 

and the wait is pretty darn long 


Wednesday, 2 February 2022

The Guy In Uniform

 He smelled of a cocktail of frustrations 

and bad decisions, 

He mulled for hours, 

He wanted to give up once and for all 

Yet he couldn't, 

because breathing is an involuntary act

and he had all his guts drained out of him. 

He rolls over in his bed, 

and waits for another day, 

to make bad decisions

The Dancer

 she's an agile dancer, 

gyrating on the edge of the world, 

she has nothing to lose, 

except leave many men with loose change, 

and with broken dreams

she carries graves inside her belly 

she's lived it all 

she's seen it all, 

and she's not reluctant to tell 

because, of many things, 

she lost her ability to care or show 

remorse.

Monday, 24 January 2022

Once A Millionaire

I have made peace with the fact that I will have completely nothing to show after a few months of being handed a million shillings. I make this declaration with a clear and sane mind, backed by the fact that laying my hands on a million shillings is realistically impossible. I am not gambling – I know there is always one winner, and it’s not me.

But then, as a self-respecting person, there is a shred of hope that someday I might land a million shillings without breaking too much sweat. People have become instant millionaires by simply being in close proximity of certain government parastatals. I could begin idling around these offices to increase my chances of being randomly selected to supply certain sensitive goods often referred to by the secret code ‘air.’

I would use a million shillings as much as the next man. I occasionally take time off my busy idling schedule (I guess the experience will come in handy when I begin idling around government offices) to fantasize about a million shillings. It is a step scientifically proven by scientists who have had more than six cups of keg.

What would I do with a million shillings? This is a question you should ask yourself. Then you make a list of priorities you would buy. Buy a car, a plot somewhere, and build a house. What will, remain, if any, you plan to travel to an exotic holiday destination, say Bermuda Triangle. If you closely look at the list, you will realise that you are completely stupid, not because that money is not enough, but because it does not involve an approved amounts of drinks and a party to let everyone know that you are the new millionaire in town.

If you are like me, I have had a little money that I have worked my ass off to lay my hands on. How did I spend it? Slowly, as I thought of something useful I would do. Didn’t the wise say that failing to plan is just a form ingenuity? Days down the line, I realise that the little money was not that little at all. At least compared to nothing, which is what I will have a week or two later.

It is then that I make a budget – no, a budget is something you make before you spend money. I make what I will call a reverse-budget. It is the process of outlining everything you bought and adding up. Often, there is a deficit that will gnaw your mind. Where did 20,000 shillings disappear to? This is the most illuminating question that reverse budgets always reveal to you.

Back to the million shillings, which, by the way, I do not have yet. I will reserve a fifth of it for an item I will term ‘where did 200,000 go’ just to be safe from the knowledge that I will recklessly spend on things I won’t need (I might code this as things that might probably kill me). That will leave me with just 800,000 shillings, assuming that the government doesn’t give me the reason of hating it more by robbing me a part it and disguising the blatant robbery with glowing terms such as taxes.

Then I will buy something that will remind me of a time when I had a million shillings. You need to do that, because everyone who has had a million shillings does it. Some pay for sex regardless of the scientifically proven fact that some girls like to have sex, for free, with millionaires. Do not do that. You have to pay for a high end hooker such as the first lady. It will give you immense bragging points that will last you a lifetime, assuming you do not end up dead in Ngong forest for your dare devil act.

I have not yet settled on something, but I am pretty sure that while I think of it, some of my close friends will lose their jobs. How, you may ask. It is simple, we will hobnob from one club to another, for one month straight. If you are my friend, you will not refuse the offer. Trust me, I am a millionaire. I could buy you another job, or idle with you by the government offices until you are randomly selected to supply ‘air.’

The truth of the matter is that I will go broke. I am under no illusions that a million bucks will serve me a lifetime, neither will I come up with ideas to multiply it. I’ll simply enlist a couple of guys (I might even tithe) to help me go broke. But then that’s not how it is, I will just be a millionaire, under the illusion that the status is permanent, treating my friends. Hell, I’ll even have a bunch of new fake-friends who will, when occasions dictate, sing me praises.

I’d like me just rich enough not to be arrogant. In the meantime, let me walk by the KEMSA offices, they might be in need of a new millionaire. I got to be ready all the time. You never know when it’s your turn.


Sunday, 9 January 2022

Do No Call Me

Do not call me yet.

I have not good news

If there were, you’d have heard it

I am not yet a millionaire,

I stopped gambling, but I may start soon

 

Do not call me. 

She, who was my fiance, 

Broke up with me

As it stands, nobody will bother you 

to contribute to money for those ceremonies, 

where people will gather and cheer you 

for finally settling down 

 

Do not call me

the streets of Nairobi have had the best of me

nothing much has changed 

only age, 

probably dreams 

and expectations - all had to be adjusted.

 

Saturday, 8 January 2022

Stagnant

Inside you are the grandest dreams ever dreamt 

Yet each day, you appear empty and unkempt 

The dreams are within your grasp 

But its distance stings like a wasp 


There are plenty moments of solitude 

When you pause and assess your mood 

You ask yourself whether you are ready 

Yes, the dreams even make you a little heady 


Where do you get everyday?

So far, far away 

Stagnant in a muddy puddle 

The dreams seem too much to handle 


Friday, 7 January 2022

Ode To An Introvert

Look at you, 

all silent and listless, 

as if you are are absent, 

speak up, do not act like a dump stone 

tell us your story, 

do people eat each other where you come from?

Are you a fugitive

that you must live invisibly among us?

Tell us anything, 

tell us about space, or nursery rhymes?

Do not tell us you do not have nursery rhymes 

everyone has them, 

Don't you even have opinions?

Or they are too strong for a fickle beliefs,

Talk to us or talk at us 

we do not care, as long as you are talking 

We need new gossip material 

about that silent guy who sits alone by the corner 

sipping his drink as if the rest of us do not exist 

We desperately need to feel good about ourselves 

we need to know we are better than you 

Thursday, 6 January 2022

Benevolence Is Not Obligatory

Its approaching seven in the evening. You are taking a walk to clear your head. You could use some form of unfamiliarity. You take an unfamiliar street. Amid the hustle and bustle, it is difficult to mind your own business. Children shriek and hurl vulgar (adult-rated) insults at one another. You mutter watoto wa siukuizi under your breath, because you are now too old, and probably about to be inducted into the hall of wahengas (wisemen). 

Then you spot an oddity, a peculiar sight. You know what that sight means – it means the grim reaper visited a family. How do you know it? The bereaved family takes out a speaker, plays some sombre gospel songs, and places the picture of the deceased close by. The family wants you to know that death has visited them, and that they may (or may not, that’s the way things are done) need some financial assistance.

As you walk by, you look at the deceased’s picture and the family that has gathered around. Your only concern is how the deceased met his death. Was it a long illness bravely born? Was it an accident? Was it thugs? Did he die suddenly? Then you begin thinking about your own mortality.

But one of the deceased family members confronts you. She forcefully wants you to be empathetic and respond in kind by parting with your hard-earned cash. It is nauseating, that level of entitlement. You ignore her and walk on. She is not done with you and shouts:

“Ata wewe utakufa!!! (You will die also!!)” where did that come from? Really? Was it even necessary? She says it as though she is never used to being rejected or ignored. Or she had signed a pact with God that whoever she talks to parts with something. The nerve!! Benevolence is not compulsory.

In anger at her statement, you respond in kind ‘pia wewe utakufa! (You will die too)’She adds more insults that put to question whether she was actually bereaved or not. You walk on, wondering where the confidence came from. You rarely respond to such kind of comments from strangers, not especially those who are bereaved. 

You must have been slightly tipsy because when you are in that state, you fire back salvos regardless of who is spitting them.